Dating site disasters, pt. 1 lol!

Rindee

Rindee

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I have lived alone my entire life, & there were times when I resorted to trying dating sites. Upon doing searches beginning with "Just looking for friends only", it immediately showed dating sites, ok so I thought I would give it a try. I spent countless hours designing profiles, uploading pictures, videos..describing myself in detail, etc.
So after all that, I waited for responses.
I would go into chats with someone...and it was always....what's your name, where do you live, how old are you, are you married, do you have kids... all the questions that were answered in my profile OMG!! Most had no pictures or much of a profile, so I would ask them to tell me about themselves, and it was always "what do you want to know?" lol!
I would ask for a picture, they seldom provided one (for obvious reasons).
It happened every time, it was like no one read profiles, then they ask all the questions they would already know, had they read it! It happened time after time. It was beyond annoying! Finally, I gave up, just could not put up with it anymore.
 

I met a nice lady on a dating sites many years ago. We had a wonderful 17 years of life together until she passed away.
I also met a very nice lady on a dating site and we have been dating now for 2 years plus.

My approach:
1. Tell no lies, honesty has always been my policy.
2. Meet for coffee in 2 or 3 weeks
3. I never would write to anyone who doesn't put in a RECENT photo.
 
Packerjohn said:
I met a nice lady on a dating sites many years ago. We had a wonderful 17 years of life together until she passed away.
I also met a very nice lady on a dating site and we have been dating now for 2 years plus.

My approach:
1. Tell no lies, honesty has always been my policy.
2. Meet for coffee in 2 or 3 weeks
3. I never would write to anyone who doesn't put in a RECENT photo.
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That's wonderful that you have had success over the years with online dating sites. I can't say the same, in fact, I never had one date with anyone on the various sites I was on. Yes, recent pics are a must!
 
Rindee said:
That's wonderful that you have had success over the years with online dating sites. I can't say the same, in fact, I never had one date with anyone on the various sites I was on. Yes, recent pics are a must!
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In fact , if you have read the link that we posted about Dating online.you will find that your experience is much more common than Packerjohn's... he's been very lucky... and also it seems the women get the worst of it..like most men are trawling these sites looking basically for sex...
 
hollydolly said:
In fact , if you have read the link that we posted about Dating online.you will find that your experience is much more common than Packerjohn's... he's been very lucky... and also it seems the women get the worst of it..like most men are trawling these sites looking basically for sex...
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Yes true, that is what I have heard and read from most women who were seriously looking for dating, love or romance, on dating sites. I know in your post, you were looking for friendships first, as I was. I was going to be ok with just friendships, chatting, emails..etc. If romance happened, then I would consider it. Alas, in my case, nothing happened lol! Have you tried any more recently Hollydolly?
 
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Rindee said:
Yes true, that is what I have heard and read from most women who were seriously looking for dating, love or romance, on dating sites. I know in your post, you were looking for friendships first, as I was. I was going to be ok with just friendships, chatting, emails..etc. If romance happened, then I would consider it. Alas, in my case, nothing happened lol! Have you tried ay more recently Hollydolly?
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No tbh I haven't , and the reason is, I have retired from working in the media ... and some well known names to the public are friends of mine, ( aquaintences)... and they also have tried recently, but much more so than me, in fact going on a string of dates after their relative partnerships have died.. and the stories they tell, are eough to put you off that type of dating forever..

I have now decided that it's simply not for me...
 
hollydolly said:
No tbh I haven't , and the reason is, I have retired from working in the media ... and some well known names to the public are friends of mine, ( aquaintences)... and they also have tried recently, but much more so than me, in fact going on a string of dates after their relative partnerships have died.. and the stories they tell, are eough to put you off that type of dating forever..

I have now decided that it's simply not for me...
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Thank you for your reply, and I understand. It is a scary realm for sure. I have heard and read some horror stories indeed, and like you, I don't intend to be one of them.
 
In another situation that never reached the dating point, years ago circa mid late 90's on America Online and their chat rooms, I hosted my own chat room, "Rindee's Room." Needless to say, not many people visited my room to chat. A few here and there, more hecklers than anything, and a few played jokes on me, using fake pictures acting like they were interested in me, only to laugh at me, then never be seen again. Then, a man came to my room, and just....stayed there, never typed a word to me. I said hi, how are you, etc., and nothing. It was strange, but, each night, he came to the room. Finally, the ice broke! He typed "Hello pretty girl!" and away we went!
The chats began to last longer, and we even voice chatted using an online program called "Roger Wilco", so I knew he was real. We traded email addresses too. We had some hot chats omg! Then, I got up enough courage to ask him for a picture....and poof! He disappeared. I was confused as to why, we had seemed to be getting along so well, and I just wanted to see his face that's all. Time went on, and nothing. So, I went on with life. I closed my chat room, and sent him an email saying I really did want to see his face, and had hoped we could get to know each other more and even go out to dinner or something, and that was that.
Well, years later, I got an email from him, he asked if I still felt the same way about him and wanted to meet for dinner (still no picture lol!). Omg..I had moved on, I was with someone, and I had pretty much forgotten about him and the email I sent. I emailed him back, and told him I was involved with a man, and I was not interested anymore. I never heard from him again. I never even knew what he looked like.....
 
Yeah, online meeting gets weird even without formal "dating sites."

Imagine that after months you received a single picture after asking many times and providing several of yourself. Asking for others: random casual pictures, fast selfies, whatever, are met with indignation and refusal every time it comes up.

Or another case. Things begin very awkwardly, then as soon as you say something suggesting your goal is to meet a person and work toward a relationship... they back out even more awkwardly.

While we can't know what is really going on, it sure smells rotten!
 
dilettante said:
Yeah, online meeting gets weird even without formal "dating sites."

Imagine that after months you received a single picture after asking many times and providing several of yourself. Asking for others: random casual pictures, fast selfies, whatever, are met with indignation and refusal every time it comes up.

Or another case. Things begin very awkwardly, then as soon as you say something suggesting your goal is to meet a person and work toward a relationship... they back out even more awkwardly.

While we can't know what is really going on, it sure smells rotten!
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You got that right! Or, as soon as they suggest meeting and marrying immediately, without providing a picture, that's even scarier! Often times they would send me pictures of models, actors, athletes....it's always easy to find that out. It's as if they never intend to meet, or get involved, but just look for some short of weird attention, even if the picture is not theirs. One guy had a picture of a muscle man, which I do like.
We went about a week chatting, emailing, etc., then I finally asked for a picture of him not flexing his muscles lol! None ever arrived, and I found out the pictures he was using, were of a well-known bodybuilder! When I confronted him with this, poof! He disappeared lol! How did he think we would ever meet if that picture was not his? I would be expecting to meet the handsome bodybuilder in the picture. Then the ones who get obsessive, that's really frightening, and some were married on top of that! I am no beauty model I know, but I have my standards too lol!
 
I can immediately bring to mind two couples who found very compatible life partners through online dating. One set met about ten years ago, another about 6. Both couples are happily married. They met while in their 30s - likely quite different from dating in one's 60s or beyond.

Online dating is the modern version of blind dating, which has been around for centuries. A descriptor by one's friend that went something like, "Nice person, great personality" was a clue that their friend/workmate/cousin/neighbor wasn't physically attractive.

I went on a fair number of blind dates back in my 20s. Some were great, some not so much. 🤷‍♀️
 
StarSong said:
I can immediately bring to mind two couples who found very compatible life partners through online dating. One set met about ten years ago, another about 6. Both couples are happily married. They met while in their 30s - likely quite different from dating in one's 60s or beyond.

Online dating is the modern version of blind dating, which has been around for centuries. A descriptor by one's friend that went something like, "Nice person, great personality" was a clue that their friend/workmate/cousin/neighbor wasn't physically attractive.

I went on a fair number of blind dates back in my 20s. Some were great, some not so much. 🤷‍♀️
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different world today in the dating world even from 10 years ago....
 


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