More people just don't want kids.

It is rooted in selfishness and extended adolescence inherent in excessive urbanization. Researchers have long noted the same thing in overcrowded populations of rats.

Biologically the 20s are the prime childbearing years. Even the 30s is pushing it, and once women try in their 40s they have few good eggs left and resort to fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization and if they produce a kid the incidence of birth defects and health problems is very high.
 
My Daughter never has wanted children. She's now 48 , she's not going to change her mind.. but it used to drive me mad when people would ask if I had grandchildren, when I said no.. they said ..without fail...'' awwww she'll change her mind''... I couldn't make people understand she had made a life choice.. her career and her dogs.. she was and is not interested in having children..
 

dilettante said:
It is rooted in selfishness and extended adolescence inherent in excessive urbanization. Researchers have long noted the same thing in overcrowded populations of rats.

Biologically the 20s are the prime childbearing years. Even the 30s is pushing it, and once women try in their 40s they have few good eggs left and resort to fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization and if they produce a kid the incidence of birth defects and health problems is very high.
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Maybe people choosing to have fewer babies is rooted in the fact that they'd have to feed them. That's the actual reason rats will have fewer litters; food insecurity. Alternatively, they can eat their young. The rats, I mean.
 
Well then perhaps we should also chemically sterilize the cows, pigs, sheep, chickens, and flowering plants?

After all, why should we allow any life to follow its nature?
 
For the longest time the focus for the prime childbearing age group has been entirely self-centered. There has been no values of the importance and benefit (human love) in having children or involvement in our local communities. The image that has been projected is one of career, financial success, and involvement in material gimmicks. Also, the idea of close-knit families is a thing of the past. We are spread out everywhere. I rarely run into couples/partners that want to raise children. They have other interests.
 
Having a family you are close to is wonderful. Being able to feel fulfilled by your own interests and achieving financial success is wonderful too. With major corporations controlling the purse strings of the world, most people can no longer do both so must choose.
 
With the state of the world and economy these days, I don't blame them. I have not been made a great-grandmother yet. I don't think my grandchildren (ages 19 - 35) want children. I know for sure at least two of the five do not. Well, this goes for my son's children, not my many step grands (last count about 68) who I've lost touch with since my husband died 5-1/2 years ago.
 
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dilettante said:
It is rooted in selfishness and extended adolescence inherent in excessive urbanization.
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Couples who choose not to procreate face not only social discrimination but political discrimination as well. Most societies place a high value on parenthood in adult life, so that those who deliberately avoid starting a family are sometimes stereotyped as selfish and unwilling to take on responsibility. Some are deemed too career-focused, although this is not necessarily true.

In line with policies of family-friendliness, governments and employers typically offer support for parents, even though people without children might have to care for invalid, disabled, or elderly dependants. Such commitments that entail significant financial and emotional costs, cut no ice. The "life" aspect of the work-life balance is often taken to mean parenting.

Couples who have chosen a life without children are labelled, career-focused and therefore, willing to work extra time. What they do with their free time is not considered as important.
 
Between my neighbor and I we have four kids. Most are in the late 30’s and early 40’s. Only one grandchild. Who will care for these people when they age is beyond me. I had an older friend in my college days. A guy who was in his 50’s. No spouse, no kids. On holidays he hoped that his one niece might invite him over for dinner. Or one of his work friends would invite him over. Me and another young turk often filled in when his family did not oblige home.

I knew back then I did not want to be childless when hit my 50’s.
 
Given all the potential problems that future generations may face....climate change, overpopulation, fewer jobs due to automation and AI, etc., I can understand people starting to be reluctant about having kids. I sometimes wonder how our great grandkids will cope. It seems that the largest number of kids being born are among those already financially strapped. and using children as a means to increase their "government subsidies".
 
chic said:
It should be the woman in question's choice whether she wants kids or not and I can understand young men not wanting kids either. Kids are expensive and honestly, I don't know how today's young people will be able to cope with the expense of all a child needs. :unsure:
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I agree, it is strictly the choice of the woman and nobody's business but hers. I think people are getting wiser than they used to be, they consider everything before having a child, their circumstances, their finances, their stability.....but most of all, their desire to have a child. I think it's a good thing people are using birth control and other methods to avoid having unwanted children. Too many children these days being abused or neglected in their own homes by their parents, my heart goes out to all of them.
 
dilettante said:
It is rooted in selfishness and extended adolescence inherent in excessive urbanization. Researchers have long noted the same thing in overcrowded populations of rats.

Biologically the 20s are the prime childbearing years. Even the 30s is pushing it, and once women try in their 40s they have few good eggs left and resort to fertility treatments and in-vitro fertilization and if they produce a kid the incidence of birth defects and health problems is very high.
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Would you be agreeable to having science come up some way to have men carrying babies (while gestating in their bodies) until birth? That way we might know more certainly which partner is against having children. Right now it's only being pitted against women.
 


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