Rose65
Senior Member
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- United Kingdom
Bringing up children is a stressful thing. There is a young mum I know, we are friends. She has a two year old boy who is adorable. However, she's struggling hugely.
I can see it's because she has made him the centre of her life to an excessive level. From her chat I understand she is constantly out of the house with him, spending a lot of money entertaining him. Meanwhile her house is a tip - I've had a cuppa with her a few times and couldn't believe the mess . She openly says she hates housework. They have takeaways and ready meals a lot as she hates cooking. The costs must be huge.
Result - her husband now works later and later, so she feels he's missing out on his son. Tensions are rising. Her child is utterly spoilt and now screams everywhere they go. She's so exhausted.
I've made mistakes myself of course, it hard to bring up children. I'm sure I was no better. I cannot advise her or interfere, I just listen. But if I could advise, I would say stabilise, be at home. Get the place tidy, do the cleaning like we all must. Plan and cook economically, stop wasting money on going out and eating out while her husband struggles to earn. They have rent and bills piling up.
Children do not need constant stimulation, they need love, security and some favourite toys. Not the mountain of toys so many young parents buy these days. You can't move in their house for toys. Above all, take control, don't let the child dictate your life. They need boundaries, discipline and routines.
It's hard seeing the basic mistakes young parents make and how unhappy they can be. Wasting time, energy and money. There is no escape from housework and budgeting.
I can see it's because she has made him the centre of her life to an excessive level. From her chat I understand she is constantly out of the house with him, spending a lot of money entertaining him. Meanwhile her house is a tip - I've had a cuppa with her a few times and couldn't believe the mess . She openly says she hates housework. They have takeaways and ready meals a lot as she hates cooking. The costs must be huge.
Result - her husband now works later and later, so she feels he's missing out on his son. Tensions are rising. Her child is utterly spoilt and now screams everywhere they go. She's so exhausted.
I've made mistakes myself of course, it hard to bring up children. I'm sure I was no better. I cannot advise her or interfere, I just listen. But if I could advise, I would say stabilise, be at home. Get the place tidy, do the cleaning like we all must. Plan and cook economically, stop wasting money on going out and eating out while her husband struggles to earn. They have rent and bills piling up.
Children do not need constant stimulation, they need love, security and some favourite toys. Not the mountain of toys so many young parents buy these days. You can't move in their house for toys. Above all, take control, don't let the child dictate your life. They need boundaries, discipline and routines.
It's hard seeing the basic mistakes young parents make and how unhappy they can be. Wasting time, energy and money. There is no escape from housework and budgeting.