What are Some of Your Likes, Dislikes, in Your Own Spouse?

My last husband was easy going but somewhat lazy and messy which didn’t bother me a lot because he was so kind, fun and supportive of me.

Eventually that all changed and he became very critical and raised the level of laziness to an art form as well as vastly increasing the messiness level. Forgot to mention the cheating and it was time to throw him out.
 

I dislike that I have a shower still not grouted and still not usable because we can't turn the water on and get it wet because it will leak because the grout needs to be done.
I can't hire anyone to do it because apparently no one can be trusted these days to come in the house. I am apparently unqualified to use a tool. He physically can't do it.
This has been going on 5-6 years (?).

Every time one of my kids says they'll come do it, all of a sudden he's going to do it but then doesn't.
Some sort of emotional mental illness related to hoarding is my guess.
It comes up every year when it's time to have company.
If you try to talk to him about it he says he's going to do it.
I should have hired someone to come in when he stayed at the V.A. as my kids suggested. The fallout would have been over by now unless he would have been grateful. We'll never know now.

His back has been out since Sept. He can't do anything.
Thank you for the vent! 🤗
 
A wife was making a breakfast of fried eggs for her husband. Suddenly, her husband burst into the kitchen. "Careful," he said, "Careful! Put in some more butter! Oh my gosh! You're cooking too many at once.

Too many! Turn them! Turn them now! We need more butter. Oh my gosh! Where are we going to get more butter? They're going to stick! Careful, careful! I said be careful! You never listen to me when you're cooking! Never! Turn them! Hurry up! Are you crazy? Have you lost your mind? Don't forget to salt them. You know you always forget to salt them. Use the! Salt. Use the salt! The salt!"

The wife stared at him. "What in the world is wrong with you? You think I don't know how to fry a couple of eggs?" The husband calmly replied, "I just wanted to show you what it feels like when I'm driving."

What I have learned after saying: "I do," is to say "yes dear," it works wonders.
 

Sippican said:
I say all this, but I am in a 12 year relationship. 12 years of 'dating'. She feels the same way I do. Because we are in our 60's we like our independence but also like being a 'couple'. When we 'disagree', she goes home, or I go home. We get over it, and move one. Works for us.
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I think that's an arrangement that works well for a lot of we seniors. It's a lot less complicated.
 
PeppermintPatty said:
Likes- He goes out of his way to help me
- will search everywhere to find something for me without me asking ( it’s totally sweet but unnecessary )
- he’s generous
- he now knows how to cook and often cooks for me XX ….HA HA No way …he says he doesn't want to learn
- he’s a handy man and then some ( he can fix just about anything )
- he is very resourceful
- he won’t ever forget a birthday OR Mother’s Day and the list gos on …
- the dogs and cat always have a Mother’s Day card each year which they personally pick themselves 😉X No Pets
- he randomly picks , wild lupins or an assortment of wild flowers 💐 ROSES OUT OF OUR GARDEN
- he randomly surprises me with things he knows I like View attachment 314050View attachment 314051

He buys the sweetest Valentine’s Day cards and I always get the nicest chocolates
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I don’t wish to share what I don’t like
This is a 34 year old relationship that’s had it’s ups and downs like any other relationship
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@PeppermintPatty i put a cross Xx …near things MY hubs doesn't do ……..
I have so many cards for birthdays / Christmas / anniversary/ Mother’s Day ….I’m seriously going to have to bin some soon, but I’m afraid he will find them in the bin ….so I haven’t binned any YET ..

He’s a retired motor Mechanic / auto electrician so he services our car never pays for anyone to do anything around the home cause on the very rare Occassion we’ve done that they haven’t done it to our satisfaction at all…
if we pay good money for something we expect it to be done properly .

Any dislikes ….we’ll just let’s say he was raised mainly by his grandmother and he has some habits rather than that faults that irritate me at times ….but after so many years you just learn to say what ever you say my dear …😁😁


..but Im sure I irritate him in many ways, but…. …so far so good we’ve weathered the storm for 38/ 1/2 years
(37 married )
( 2 nd time for both )
 
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Kadee said:
@PeppermintPatty i put a cross Xx …near things MY hubs doesn't do ……..
I have so many cards for birthdays / Christmas / anniversary/ Mother’s Day ….I’m seriously going to have to bin some soon, but I’m afraid he will find them in the bin ….so I haven’t binned any YET ..

He’s a retired motor Mechanic / auto electrician so he services our car never pays for anyone to do anything around the home cause on the very rare Occassion we’ve done that they haven’t done it to our satisfaction at all…
if we pay good money for something we expect it to be done properly .

Any dislikes ….we’ll just let’s say he was raised mainly by his grandmother and he has some habits rather than that faults that irritate me at times ….but after so many years you just learn to say what ever you say my dear …😁😁


..but Im sure I irritate him in many ways, but…. …so far so good we’ve weathered the storm for 38/ 1/2 years
(37 married )
( 2 nd time for both )
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Exactly. Women are generally more fussy than men and they ‘have’ to listen to our personal preferences yadda yadda yadda. He’s taught me how to respond when he gets annoying also. ‘Yes dear….., whateverrrrrr.’ 😂

I’m practicing Buddhism 🕉️ so have more patience and tolerance lately

Old Xmas card idea. Cut them into smaller gift name tags
 
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