Why is sex such a big bugaboo?

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We're humans. Whether or not we like it, we are animals. And the stork does not bring babies. We breath, we eat, we sleep, we play, we cry, we fight, and we have kids. Why is there such a big bugaboo about sex? There's 8 billion of us, so the process is well known, so why just the mention of sex is such a "dirty" topic. What is it about this natural event that sets us off?
It wasn't until recently that we could even use the term "sex" in this forum.
 
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The topic of sex seems to be as taboo as discussions about mental health issues.

I’m all in favor taking the secrecy, shame, guilt, mystery, out of sex and accepting it as a routine part of our lives.

IMO if we had age appropriate sex/relationship discussions at home and in public schools along with nonjudgmental access to various contraceptives, the morning after pill, etc… we could go along way towards reducing the need for abortions and many of the issues associated with neglected children.

I’m not very optimistic considering we’ve had hundreds and hundreds of years to change our attitudes.
 
If one studies ancient civilizations from over the last 8 millennium, it becomes rather obvious it has been dead center as a reason for war and conflict along with wealth and power. The primary reason vast armies like those of Genghis Khan marched endlessly over cities to the east was so his soldiers could kill all men, rape, enslave young women, and plunder whatever wealth. Most ancient civilizations were polygamous with the powerful and wealthy collecting concubines freely taking by force the most attractive women while the poor people suffered. Why do you think there is such an enormous difference in female facial attractiveness between those many tribes of humans that struggle just to survive and elites in city states, especially in Europe?

That is why by the Greek and Roman eras, they turned from polygamy to monoganism to reduce conflict and hate. With humans, women and food are two key male creature visceral desires. In the 19th century, anthropologists found plenty of warmongering tribes in remote areas like jungles where before civilization arrived men regularly killed other neighboring men and took their women.

In early civilizations there were also plenty of perverse and deviant sexual practices often through religious rites. So human procreative needs have left a foul embarrassing stench over our behaviors. The Bible itself points to centuries of guilty scribes removing embarrassing sexual content from scripture. And in this era the rise of media pornography and hidden self gratification shows it has only become worse. The last thing one ever listens to in any Christian churches are sermons about sex. And yet it is at the top of where young adult minds roam. And of course, the last thing many parents are able to talk about with their children is that same subject.
 
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We are humans and to do anything pleasurable promotes guilt and chastisement. We are not supposed to be happy, we are lowly scums of the earth and the way to salvation is through religion. Joy and happiness are emotions therefore deemed unhealthy by logic and reasoning. 1984
 
fuzzybuddy said:
Why is there such a big bugaboo about sex? What is it about this natural event that sets us off?
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Unfortunately, many people feel guilt and shame about their sexuality. Sex can be a sensitive and awkward topic that raises feelings of embarrassment, shame or inadequacy. Because talking about sex involves a degree of risk. Doing so can make you feel vulnerable to judgement, criticism or rejection.

No one likes feeling clueless about anything. That seems more true of sex than of many things. Sex may not have been talked about in your families, people often think that sexual information is something you’re supposed to “just know” or figure out for yourself, rather than something you can actually learn about. This means people believe the many myths about sex that permeate our culture.

Sex is, for many, is a reminder of the human's animalistic roots and base passions that should be kept private. The taboo of sex deserves the consideration of 'multifaceted' taboo: it is an area of human experience that stands at the crossroads of religious, psychological, and social impositions.

It can be argued, quite reasonably that pornography has created the taboo around sex and the discussion of the subject. Josh Rosenblatt explains it most succinctly in the HuffPost.
 
There is plenty that many people engage in sexually that people ought feel embarrassed about especially those related to perverse fantasies, societal taboos, and in this era visual media pornography by the many in this era that seem to have few limits because they think all that is secretly hidden within only their own mind won't become known. We are what we do and experience due to neural plasticity that others may inadvertently become aware of due to subtle non verbal behaviors in embarrassing ways.
 
I too think religion has played a large part in the negative [bugaboo] surrounding sex . As for sex , no point in being overly graphic about it but ....... I've always liked it , now that I'm older than dirt, I miss it.
 
I think the many rules surrounding it were probably developed for the security of women and their children. In primitive societies free sex with anyone who happened to catch the eye in the moment meant lots of pregnant women and no one in particular to provide food and shelter for them and their offspring.

So, yes, religion came into it, but not for the purpose of spoiling anyone's fun, but rather to assure that men knew with some certainty that they were the father of the child and thus were motivated to provide for it.

Today, the young people who have tossed out religion and all taboos and bugaboos surrounding sex, end up "hooking up" with each other through online match ups or going to clubs and picking each other up for one-night stands. Next they're on Maury trying to figure out who is going to support the child they made.
 
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