Colleen
Senior Member
- Location
- Pennsylvania
As many of you know, my husband died unexpectedly in October. We were planning to make our final arrangements and have a will made after the first of the year (2024). However, that didn't happen. I've had so many decisions to make in the last couple months that I've felt overwhelmed at times and just didn't have the energy to tackle one more thing like getting my final arrangements settled and getting a will made. Now, it's been on my mind a lot lately and I need to get this done.
My problem is with a will and who I should put in it. I've had a rocky relationship with my only son. He's 47, not married (as far as I know), and lives 40 miles from me here in PA. I haven't seen him since hubby and I moved to AZ in 2014. He never calls or texts. The last time I got a text from him was when I let him know that my husband had died.
Then there's hubby's 3 kids. His oldest son lives in AZ in the town we lived in. He doesn't call me or text either. I don't have any contact with his middle son. He cut his dad out of his life years ago because his wife didn't like us. His daughter and her husband drive for FedEx and they're on the road all the time so I don't really have much contact with them. Their home base is also AZ. She and I have "tolerated" each other all these years for her dad's sake but now that he's gone, I'm sure that relationship will eventually end.
I have (1) remaining cousin in MI that I still have contact with. We haven't seen each other in years but we keep in touch on FB. I have good friends that hubby and I had when we lived in another town. They were our neighbors and we've (I've) known them since 2008. They visited us when we moved back to PA from AZ and they've been to my house a couple times since hubby passed.
Other then that, I don't have anyone to put in a will. I was an only child so no siblings.
What would you do? Who would you designate as a beneficiary on your bank accounts? I have no idea.
My problem is with a will and who I should put in it. I've had a rocky relationship with my only son. He's 47, not married (as far as I know), and lives 40 miles from me here in PA. I haven't seen him since hubby and I moved to AZ in 2014. He never calls or texts. The last time I got a text from him was when I let him know that my husband had died.
Then there's hubby's 3 kids. His oldest son lives in AZ in the town we lived in. He doesn't call me or text either. I don't have any contact with his middle son. He cut his dad out of his life years ago because his wife didn't like us. His daughter and her husband drive for FedEx and they're on the road all the time so I don't really have much contact with them. Their home base is also AZ. She and I have "tolerated" each other all these years for her dad's sake but now that he's gone, I'm sure that relationship will eventually end.
I have (1) remaining cousin in MI that I still have contact with. We haven't seen each other in years but we keep in touch on FB. I have good friends that hubby and I had when we lived in another town. They were our neighbors and we've (I've) known them since 2008. They visited us when we moved back to PA from AZ and they've been to my house a couple times since hubby passed.
Other then that, I don't have anyone to put in a will. I was an only child so no siblings.
What would you do? Who would you designate as a beneficiary on your bank accounts? I have no idea.