Are you hard to live with?

I'm very easy to live with. My first wife did a cold-blooded analysis and determined that my earnings potential was not enough to keep her in the style to which she wanted to become accustomed. She wound up with a guy who stole from his clients, with her help. Trouble followed. Meanwhile I've enjoyed nearly 40 years of a happy second marriage, partly because, well, I'm easy to live with.
 
I like to think that I am, but I'm sure that some would find me intolerable as well. That's because it depends on the personality of the person we are living with. In short, we humans vary in our preferences. So what might be considered amusing or admirable by one person might be exceedingly annoying to another. For example, my cousin George liked to be telling jokes. But his wife found that annoying. Had they shared the same sense of humor, everything would have been OK. I found my former wife's constantly speaking Spanish annoying. Had I been predominantly a Spanish speaker, there would have been no problem. So it all depends.
 
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I’m easy going so not hard to live with. I’m on friendly terms with ex husbands 2 and 3. Number one is dead. I have 3 kids with number two and a stepson I helped raise with 3 so maintaining those relationships are important to me.

However , I’m done living with anyone and really enjoy just taking care of myself and the dogs and everything in my house being neat and in its place.
 
I only become hard to live with when the other person starts disrespecting my human rights. You know, such as my human right to sleep.
My right to rest when arriving home from work. My right not to have my kids physically abused in front of me. My right to live in a place that isn't adorned like some type of amusement park freak show. My right not to listen to an incessant, and totally unnecessary rabid shouting. If not, then I tend to become what the other person might subjectively consider as, you know, unjustifyingly morose.
 
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Growing up as a child in a large family, then living with others in the military, had plenty of experience practicing tolerance living cooperatively closely among others. But most of my life as adult, have chosen to live alone in my own residences with its full freedom to live as I choose. If I had to live closely with others again, could pragmatically do so though there are plenty of things others do that might annoy me at various levels and there are limits to how long I might put up with whatever.
 
EmptyCup said:
I never was. I would be now though. I don’t want to compromise.
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Same here. Back when I was married and my kids were still at home, I think I was pretty easy to live with. But now? Forget it! :LOL: I've gotten 'way too used to watching whatever TV show or movie I want, when I want to, hogging the bed, eating whatever I want for meals at any time I like, and so on. I'm not sure I could ever go back to living with anyone.
 
Radrook said:
I only become hard to live with when the other person starts disrespecting my human rights. You know, such as my human right to sleep.
My right to rest wen getting home from work. My right not to have my kids physically abused in front of me. My right to live in a place that isn't adorned like some type of a mad house. My right not to listen to an unnecessary incessant, rabid shouting. If not, then I tend to become what the other person might consider as, you know, morose.
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I'm almost afraid to comment not wanting to add to your hardship. I hope for your sake that you're making most of this up.
 
Radrook said:
I like to think that I am, but I'm sure that some would find me intolerable as well. That's because it depends on the personality of the person we are living with. In short, we humans vary in our preferences. So what might be considered amusing or admirable by one person might be exceedingly annoying to another.
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This true for me. My husband and I get along swimmingly. If I'd married someone with a different temperament, it wouldn't have gone so well.

Living in a large enough space that we're not on top of each other all the time helps. As does politeness, being quick to apologize for transgressions, and appreciating kindnesses, big and small. We probably say please and thank you to each other twenty times a day.
 
I think I am but I have qualities that others find completely captivating so I'm never alone. I'm also kind, and tolerant and diplomatic. I think that all helps. :unsure: :)
 
fuzzybuddy said:
If you have an "ex" or two hanging around, you know they were no good miserable "so-n-so" s. But maybe the halo on your head slipped, every once in a while?????? Are you hard to live with?
To be honest, my ex became a gambling addict; but at the same time, I was in mega pain from back surgery, and I don't think I was Prince Charming.
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Yes I suspect, like everyone else, I must be hard to live with. But then we need other people in our lives and I have enjoyed living with my wife a long time now and wouldn't care to stop. I think the easier we are on our selves, the better we can tolerate or even appreciate living with others. But without insight and humility it can be hell.
 

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