Lilac
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- Flyover Country
Any ideas on telling a longtime friend that I don't need help cooking when she has been invited to dinners/parties in the kitchen? I've tried to tell her to go & relax with the others, but she won't. She will sit in the kitchen until she can find something to do & just jump in or tell me how it could be done. I believe she thinks she is being helpful.
My husband doesn't realize how much I'm beginning not liking inviting her & her husband. At Christmas, they were told to come over only with their appetites. Nope, wasn't going to happen according to the husband. He said she is "bringing something special." I said again, just them & their appetites. He just replied, "Well you know her" & laughed.
I made sure everything was done that could be except for salad dressing, slicing the roast & asparagus. I was in the kitchen & she walked in asking if she could help. I said no just go & have a seat & relax. When I turned around, she not only showed up with wine to drink at dinner, but with another dessert. At the last minute I had to pull out dessert plates & more forks.
She interjected herself by getting everyone drinks after I asked my daughter to do it. Then she asked what dressing they wanted on salads & decided where everyone would sit. We always sit next to who we want to at the table! Needless to say clearing the table & serving dessert headed the same way. I don't think my husband realized I was at my proverbial wits end that day, but the kid did.
Sorry for being long winded. But most of all, thanks for letting me vent on this! But if anyone has any good suggestions, please tell me.
My husband doesn't realize how much I'm beginning not liking inviting her & her husband. At Christmas, they were told to come over only with their appetites. Nope, wasn't going to happen according to the husband. He said she is "bringing something special." I said again, just them & their appetites. He just replied, "Well you know her" & laughed.
I made sure everything was done that could be except for salad dressing, slicing the roast & asparagus. I was in the kitchen & she walked in asking if she could help. I said no just go & have a seat & relax. When I turned around, she not only showed up with wine to drink at dinner, but with another dessert. At the last minute I had to pull out dessert plates & more forks.
She interjected herself by getting everyone drinks after I asked my daughter to do it. Then she asked what dressing they wanted on salads & decided where everyone would sit. We always sit next to who we want to at the table! Needless to say clearing the table & serving dessert headed the same way. I don't think my husband realized I was at my proverbial wits end that day, but the kid did.
Sorry for being long winded. But most of all, thanks for letting me vent on this! But if anyone has any good suggestions, please tell me.