Unfortunately, so. It is not in my nature to be distrusting, but, I wish I had been that time.this is the price we paid for being so trusting..... Pinks...
Unfortunately, so. It is not in my nature to be distrusting, but, I wish I had been that time.this is the price we paid for being so trusting..... Pinks...
yes same as me... and of course unbeknown to me for many years that was taken advantage of.... and now he's spoiled it for other people, because from now on I'll be on high alert...Unfortunately, so. It is not in my nature to be distrusting, but, I wish I had been that time.
i had the wool over my entire head for at least three years. probably five.Oh boy can they ?.. I had no idea it was possible to pull the wool over anyone's eyes, much less mine for so long.... unbelievable !
try 20.. ! terrible isn't it ?i had the wool over my entire head for at least three years. probably five.
love is blind.
I'm sorry she's gone through that...it would have been horrendous for her.. and of course it will still be affecting her in some way after all these years... you can only continue to let her know you will never do the same to her...HollyDolly,
Your description sounds very much like my Wife's history with her first husband of 25 years. He really did a number on her and their daughter. We have been married for 21 years and she is still somewhat affected by that past.
Why do you assume the pastors are only talking to the women? Pastors tell us all to forgive because that's what Jesus told us to do, and not because Jesus wanted the perpetrators to get away with things, but because he knew dwelling on what happened in the past would make us bitter and miserable, when we should be living in the now, enjoying our life."Pastors, preachers, priests: when you tell the flock to forgive are you really telling them to shut up?" There's two answer choices to that question only, yes or no.
Choose one: Either you will allow women to talk about all the hurts and ill-treatment in their lives or you will choose "Yes", which means you preach forgiveness because you want women to shut the ____ up.
AS I had no childen with this husband people presumed it was easy for me to walk away, and I got all the same questions...Why do you assume the pastors are only talking to the women? Pastors tell us all to forgive because that's what Jesus told us to do, and not because Jesus wanted the perpetrators to get away with things, but because he knew dwelling on what happened in the past would make us bitter and miserable, when we should be living in the now, enjoying our life.
I rarely say anything out loud about my ex because I don't want my son to think poorly of his father.
Another reason I don't often talk about my ex is that people are rarely sympathetic, instead they blame me: "Why didn't you leave?" "Why were you such a doormat?" "That would never happen to me!" "I would never put up with that." "It's your fault for making such bad choices."
My mother talked badly about my father when we were kids. She vented to us. I think it really poisoned my opinion of him forever. I now see he did as lot of good and right things too. He didn't abuse my mom but was very frugal. He also didn't want her to work way back then in the 60s.. That's how a lot of men throught then.I guess I think that's ok but I wouldn't talk bad about them to his children unless he was bad enough that he was a danger to them.
Wife beater? I had no idea @hollydolly and am sad to read that. xHow he ..a wife beater, and cheater could feel he's the injured party is beyond any right minded peson's understanding...
Unfortunately yes....this was a week after the last beating... I was 66 at the time.. I was just horrified, never expected to have a beating at 66, it had been about 5 years since the previous..Wife beater? I had no idea @hollydolly and am sad to read that. x
The one paying now, You.who was going to help me pay the bills, and 2 houses if I left ?
but I had to lose things to be able to do it... and I have no idea what my future holds financially until the divorce is final..The one paying now, You.
I felt from the beginning of this he would be a total grubby, greedy pig about all you have built for yourself.but I had to lose things to be able to do it... and I have no idea what my future holds financially until the divorce is final..
sad to say you were right in your thinking....I felt from the beginning of this he would be a total grubby, greedy pig about all you have built for yourself.
That's horrific! I hope he got charged with domestic abuse. Did you say that it was a no fault divorce? Have you taken legal advice about that? I am struggling to understand how it could be no fault when you have a violent and unfaithful partner.Unfortunately yes....this was a week after the last beating... I was 66 at the time.. I was just horrified, never expected to have a beating at 66, it had been about 5 years since the previous..
yes it is a no fault divorce because when he attacked me last time, he had 2 friends/colleagues who backed his story.. ( he's their friend as well as their boss) and the police said it was 3 people's words against mine so no charges could be broughtThat's horrific! I hope he got charged with domestic abuse. Did you say that it was a no fault divorce?
I have a feeling his new partner will one day wish she had never met him. I hope your divorce goes smoothly and you enjoy a much better life than he ever does. xyes it is a no fault divorce because when he attacked me last time, he had 2 friends/colleagues who backed his story.. ( he's their friend as well as their boss) and the police said it was 3 people's words against mine so no charges could be brought
I could write in more detail but I'm not going to do that on the open forum... so despite the beating..( I had him arrested twice during our marriage )... the lawyers said that it would be very difficult to have anything other than a No fault Divorce..
Sorry, I had not thought of that. FixedI know Trish has copied the picture of the bruises to my arm.. but I'm going to remove the original picture because it's upsetting me...